Wednesday, November 18, 2015

Money Thoughts

Money Thoughts

Believe it or not the subject of money as you grew up has had a lasting effect.  
Are you aware of this?

Did you hear the following words in a negative connotation;  bill payments, can’t afford this or that; we’re not made of money?  Or could it have been that you grew up with parents that had success and they were snobby about it which made you feel uncomfortable?  Was one parent a spender and another a saver?  Were there arguments about money? All of these topics made an imprint for you which is good to keep in mind if you have children, watch how your energy of the money topic is discussed around them.
So how are you spending your money now a days? Do you spend as much as you can each week because you feel free to do so?  Do you want to look better than your colleagues or are you spending money because you’re bored so you go shopping, get manicures and dine out with friends to cure those moments?  Or have you purchase a new car instead of a used one which would make sense financially?
Does any of this resonate?
At some point we all wake up and dread checking our banking statements.  Thoughts similar to; how much is on my credit card and how much is in my savings and when is my next pay coming in makes us uptight right?  What about investments? Have you started for your retirement?

If you feel uncomfortable the solution is to face your current money situation and ask your bank questions to educate yourself of the choices available for you. Don't wait for your husband or someone else to take care of it you should learn it for yourself so you can happily pay off your debts and start saving.  The sooner you start to delegate your money in the right direction the better.
Tricks to help you save money;  I have heard to keep yourself from impulsive purchases you should leave credit cards at home frozen in a chunk of ice or cut them up.  Another great tool is to ask the bank to lower your interest rate and lower the limit of your card.

Don’t be fooled by super rich people either.  They are usually in debt with all of their extra cars and homes on lines of credit and if you compare yourself and try to keep up with their illusion, you are building debt for  your ego.
If we look at the psychology of your thoughts realize that what you focus on expands. What do I mean? I mean if you feel like spending you will go out and have a blast with or without guilt. If you focus on saving you will refrain, find the deals and keep to a budget.  Did you notice I used the word “feel” when it comes to spending?  That’s because most of us buy with emotions.  When you feel bored, insecure in your status of looks or otherwise you are likely to make a purchase to feel better.  That’s why commercials create pretty scenery for shavers as an example because they want you to think it’s amazing to shave with their product.  How funny is that?  If we examine commercials for men they build desire for expensive cars.  Which leads me to point out the fact that society gears high end products for men because they generally make more money?  Why do they make more money?  They ask for it!  It is well known that women tend to undervalue their worth in business.  

Are you frustrated yet? 

Good, you should be.  Start to take responsibility for your finances so you have more for you and your family. Start to ask for a raise when you go into a review with your company by pointing out all of your strengths and productivity that has enhanced the company.  If you work for yourself, start to charge your clients more. Get extra education to take your business to the next level. Book an appointment today with a financial advisor or bank clerk to take back your money power.  Plan for success on your terms.
Start to feel positive by ‘accepting yourself for who you are right now’ because You’re Worth It!

Monday, November 16, 2015

Get Inspired

Do you need to get inspired?  I will help you!

Do you realize while you’re working on your business at home or elsewhere listening to musicians on satellite radio effortlessly, you are listening to several months of commitment?  

Think about this; these bands have put their words to paper after an idea and have inserted music notes to jive.  They would have had to play around with the notes and the words for hours. They might also have to converse with producers, band members and marketing agents who they took the time to find so they could create their dreams so that you and I could enjoy their efforts. 

Their music actually helps us to create our best selves.   

Your body becomes fit, your heart feels emotion, and your work becomes fun. The atmosphere in your car, your romantic getaways and all holiday seasons of your life can be said to have been inspired by music and not to mention your kids singing in a play that makes you smile.

There is no limit to what music can do for you and that is why you should come back to appreciate how those artists took the time and the consistent effort that you are doing in your business to make things come alive.

You are no different!  When you feel stuck and alone in your business have a quick thought about all of those awesome bands you enjoy, who are pushing themselves right at this very minute to be creative and come up with their next 25 songs.

I hope this helps you to reconnect with your core, to stay on track with your desires, to know that your hard work will be enjoyed by others for years to come.  There is no reason to be stuck for long.          

I am a 70's fan with a twist of the latest dance song which gets me singing and dancing!      

The world awaits your new business! Let us know who you are and what songs inspire you in the comments below.

From Life Coach Shanon Dawn
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Wednesday, November 4, 2015

Components of a Healthy Relationship

What are the Components of a Healthy Relationship?

For all relationships and marriages over 10 years old and have overcome challenges, I salute you!
By now you know that all couples go through ebbs and flow with their emotions, actions and conversations.  Some couples manage well while others fall apart.  

The intention behind getting together with someone is to remain flexible and respectful at all times.
Obviously there are plenty of examples of couples who did not practice this and divorced.  Don't be the next statistic.

Here are some reasons why couples do not make it

1. Communication breakdown = having topics repeatedly discussed without results which leads to feeling shut down and hopeless.  

2. Routine with intimacy =  spontaneity is gone and a reminder is needed to keep sex and intimacy fresh, flirty and fun....this is your reminder.
3. Finances = many couples hide behind concealed purchases, withholding investment information.

4. Children = are never on the same page pertaining to discipline

5. Time = lack quality time together. 

6. Friends = socializing with friends that are encouraging the breakdown of your spouses flaws.
7. Expectations = Unmet expectations are a major source of conflict in marriages. 

It’s time to open up and discuss the limits and limitless sides to your relationship. 

 1. If you and your spouse are in a spot where having conversations escalates into arguments, find a third person to be with during those times like a coach, therapist, banker, trusted friend or family. 
What about an email as an ice breaker?  Send an email to start the conversation and after two or three between you and your spouse start the conversation.

2. Fresh Flirty and Fun sex that is spontaneous can be a possible all you have to do is be the one to start it.  Roll play, dress different, wear perfume, nibble your partners ear, make suggestions at inappropriate times just to get the atmosphere to change. 
Intentions need to be met with a push. If you sit and wish you will get nowhere.

3. What about your money?  Do you live paycheque to paycheque, off lines of credit?  Who is the saver and who is the spender?  Can you sit together at home or in a bank and discuss?  The sooner you both reach agreements the better.

4.  Children are the love of your life but can change your relationship dynamics drastically.  If you are finding that you are trying to feed your child healthy and your spouse feeds what ever they can, create a preferred menu, purchase those foods, prep them ahead of time and put them into sealed containers in your fridge.  Or, create a go to list and post it. 

5. Quality time can mean keeping each other up to date with future goals, ask your partner what the next year looks like for them what hobbies will they want to take up and what they would like to see for your marriage and as a family?  What else is exciting in their career?  Find ways to communicate to listen and share your desires as well. If you do this on a regular basis you will be well on your way to feeling cohesive.

6. Any friends that seem negative or derogatory more often than positive, you may have to rethink your situation with them. If they have no luck in their relationships or thinking how can they support you as a friend? The test is do you feel good or motivated after being with them or do you feel like you have to rescue them and their situations all of the time?  I would encourage you to get out and find new friends who pursue goals and love life. They say we are who we hang out with.

7. Expectations will be met with resistance if they are not cured with acknowledgement from the first time you discuss it.  There has to be an agreement made verbally or in another form of validation like an email to achieve the relationship goals you have.

Book a date to have these conversations, be flirty with one another and become the person you want to see in your relationship who is happy with results because you made sure the two of you took the time to create something worth loving for.
Here is your 3 day challenge:
 Write love notes with appreciation
Say nothing negative
Make Love
Spend 30 minutes to 1 hour talking without electronics or interruptions
Post something loving on social media about your partner or family
Create a date for the following week
When you are willing to change your behaviour your partner will mimic the love back.

Start your day now and have fun creating this slightly new version.

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